Teething Signs and Relief

A baby’s teeth begin to develop before most women know they are expecting. Tooth buds start forming in the fetus around five to six weeks of development. They won’t become a problem for baby until the first teeth start coming through the gums at about six months of age. The first set of teeth can start to come in anytime as early as three months or as late as twelve months. The most common first set of teeth are the two bottom front teeth. The teeth will continue to come in sets of two. The most painful teeth children get are the first set of molars and canine teeth. These teeth usually arrive at about 13-19 months of age. By age three, children should have a full set of 20 teeth. Here’s some advice on how to recognize the signs of teething and how to soothe the pain.

When babies start teething they can have multiple symptoms.



 Extra cranky

 Chin rash

 Ear pulling

 Not sleeping well at night

 Low grade fever

 Swollen gums

 Excessive drooling

 Biting and chewing



Not all these symptoms may be present and not all the symptoms represent teething. You should contact your pediatrician if you suspect your child is bothered by more than just teething. There are plenty of ways to soothe baby’s sore gums. Some ways to help your child soothe the pain from teething include:



 Teething rings

 Cold or frozen washcloth

 Rubbing gums with finger

 Cold drink

 Cold food

 Baby Orajel

 Acetaminophen or Ibuprofen

 Chilled soft-tip baby spoon to chew on





You can add extra effectiveness to teething rings and toys if you put them in the fridge for a while. The coldness calms the inflammation and helps numb the pain. When using any medications to soothe baby’s teething pain use medication as directed or consult your pediatrician.



Once teeth arrive, just like adult teeth, they are susceptible to plaque build-up and decay. As soon as the first tooth pokes through the gums you should begin brushing your baby’s teeth. This can be done with a small soft toothbrush and water or baby toothpaste at least twice a day, morning and bedtime. You can also use a clean, wet washcloth or gauze pad to wipe teeth and gums after meals. It is important to take care of temporary baby teeth because this will promote healthy gums and future adult teeth.



There’s no telling how each child will react to teething but hopefully these tips will be helpful.

Melissa K



Sources: www.babycenter.com

PREPARING FOR COLLEGE

By:  Tina 

Wow! Where did the time go? It seems like only yesterday that your son or daughter was a toddler and you were preparing for kindergarten. Now they are 18 years old, a high school senior and preparing for college. Parents, are you ready for this? Are you ready to accept that your child is facing the next four years of their life away from home, away from the safe-haven of mom and dad? Brace yourself parents because it can not only be an emotional rollercoaster, but a financial one as well. Preparing your child for college takes proper planning that begins early in the high school years.

It is a good idea to begin preparing for college during the freshman year of high school. Here are some ideas:

• Start by making sure your teen is taking courses that will challenge learning.
• Ask about an Advanced Placement test that can offer college level courses during high school. 
• Make sure your teen is practicing independent study habits while being responsible and organized with their homework.  This will help prepare them for the college setting. 
• Along with your teen, explore college majors and colleges of interest. 
• Stay in touch with the high school guidance counselor.
• By the time your teen is a senior, the choice of colleges should be narrowed to three.
• Make sure your teen is preparing to take entrance exams such as the SAT and ACT Assessment. These tests are usually given at the high school and can be taken several times in an effort to score higher.   

I recently interviewed a high school guidance counselor asking her questions that will keep students on track for college. She did not want to be identified so I will refer to her as Mrs. C. Take a look at our interview below.
 

Q: In regard to course selection during high school, what is the biggest mistake students make?
Mrs. C: “The biggest mistake that students make is listening to their friends. They are misinformed, and they think that they really have the knowledge.”

Q: What advice do you offer for getting students interested in their own futures?
Mrs. C: “I think its constant communication with the student in the classroom, sending newsletters home, and bringing in guest speakers”.

Q: How can a counselor anticipate and then respond to students’ changing interests?
Mrs. C: “The last time I saw, 60% percent of high school students will check “undecided” on their college application. I feel the more knowledge they have about themselves when they graduate high school, the more informed and better choice they will have for college. In the long run, this can save them money, because then they are not transferring from college to college or continually changing their major. That’s why I meet with students individually every year.”

Q: Is there any other advice you would like to add?
Mrs. C: “I think it is important for counselors to get out there and take the first step to meet with students. Students may feel intimidated to visit the Guidance Office so I get out there and show the students that I am here for them. Also, I tell parents when students are in their freshman year of high school to start talking to their child about college and their future.”

From a financial standpoint, parents should be familiar with the FAFSA form. The FAFSA form is available online January 1st of every year. This is the first application you will need to complete. The FAFSA is the application most colleges use to determine eligibility for federal, state, and college-sponsored financial aid, including grants, educational loans, and work-study programs. To be considered for federal financial aid, you must submit a completed FAFSA form on time. Information can be found at http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/. The high school guidance counselor can also assist with other scholarship applications and deadlines. Remember, the “Early bird gets the worm!” There is only so much money out there that is available to college students, so the earlier you start the process, the better.

What's for Lunch?

By: Christina C
Toddlers are attempting to gain independence from the start. One way they try to do this is through their eating habits. Toddlers learn to eat healthy by what you as a parent serve them. If they are only offered unhealthy things then that is what they will continue to select as a choice for themselves. Picky eaters do not have to skip out on nutrition because they will not try something. Toddlers gain knowledge of nutrition by watching the parent and by trying new things. Lunchtime can be a fun, entertaining way to incorporate different foods. Creativity is key not only at lunchtime but at any meal time.




A large majority of toddlers love pizza and not all pizza is healthy. A fun, healthy way to serve pizza is to prepare it on a whole grain English muffin. Vegetables can be placed on the pizza with cheese and sauce. If a picky eater will not eat pizza because there are “those gross green things” on there, try putting the vegetables under the cheese. Another way is to chop the vegetables until in can be mixed in with the sauce.



Hot dogs seem to be the go to for a lunch option. Hot dogs can be cut up in bite size pieces then wrapped in a crescent roll and baked. Cheese can be added inside the roll or inside the sliced hotdog. Vegetables can be also finely chopped and baked in crescent roll or in the hot dog.



Sandwiches are great for on the go. To make sandwiches just a little different, avocado, hummus or cream cheese can be used as a spread. Bread can be shaped into a toddler’s favorite character by using a cookie cutter. If a parent does not want to use deli meat for a sandwich, try spreading cream cheese on the bread and adding sliced cucumbers. Peanut butter and jelly is an all time favorite sandwich for children of any age. If you as a parent are tired of making them add something to them. Bacon, lettuce, tomato or honey can be added for a different flavor.



Macaroni and cheese is a great staple food because it is easy to eat. Frozen or canned vegetables can be mixed in to the macaroni and cheese making it an all around good meal.



When toddlers learn to dip there seems to be no stopping them. They want to dip everything into something. There are many different things that fruit or vegetables can be dipped into. Yogurt or a salad dressing can be used for vegetables. Yogurt or whole fruit dip can be used for fresh fruit. Peanut butter, hummus, cream cheese or avocado can be used for either fruit or vegetables.



Pumpkin, banana or zucchini bread can be a great alternative to regular bread for different sandwiches. These types of breads are a good source of vitamin A. They can also just be served alone with butter spread on and fruit or vegetable as a side.



The key to any toddler meal or snack is being creative enough to get the toddler to eat it. Try it more than once you may get a positive reaction the second time around.











Different recipes ideas can be found at:

http://www.wholesometoddlerfood.com/toddlerlunch.htm



Work Cited:



Healthy and Easy Lunches for Toddlers

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/58377/healthy_and_easy_lunches_for_toddlers_pg2.html?cat=25

Cited: 2011 Retrieved: April 4, 2011



Lunch Ideas for Toddlers

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/lunch-ideas-for-toddlers.html

Cited: 2011 Retrieved: April 4, 2011



Lunch Recipes For Toddlers

http://www.essortment.com/lunch-recipes-toddlers-56352.html

Cited: 2010 Retrieved: April 4, 2011



Six Easy Healthy Recipes for a Toddlers Lunch

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/273494/6_easy_healthy_toddler_lunch_ideas_pg2.html?cat=22

Cited: 2011 Retrieved: April 4, 2011

Should I buy organic foods?

Meghan Scaringi

Every trip to the grocery store costs more and more, and I seem to have purchased less and less! Deciding how to spend my grocery dollars has become a real dilemma. I want my daughter to have wholesome fresh food, this usually costs more than packaged processed items, but I am also concerned about having pure food. More and more organic food is appearing in the groceries, and there is more discussion about the necessity of eliminating foods with hormones and pesticides. Still many organic foods cost almost 50% more than conventionally grown foods. Is it really necessary to buy organic food for my toddler?

What is organic food?
Organic foods are those that are produced using methods that do not involve modern synthetic inputs such as pesticides and chemical fertilizers, do not contain genetically modified organisms, and are not processed using irradiation, industrial solvents, or chemical food additives this definition is found in the business of food: encyclopedia of the food and drink industries by Allen and Albala.

Labeling

The USDA ORGANIC labeling requirements are based on the percentage of organic ingredients in a product.  Products labeled as “100 percent organic” must contain (excluding water and salt) only organically
produced ingredients and processing aids.Products labeled “organic” must consist of at least 95 percent organically produced ingredients (excluding water and salt). Any remaining product ingredients must consist of nonagricultural substances approved on the National List including specific non-organically produced agricultural products that are not commercially available in organic form.


The advantages of organic food
The choice does not have to be will I buy organic or not. The choice can be will I reduce the amount of chemicals in the food I serve my toddler. Chemical is more of a worry for babies and toddlers than adults. Alan Greene, MD, pediatrician and author of Raising Baby Green, says “Babies eat more than adults, pound or pound, and are more vulnerable to environmental toxins.” Choosing to start with a few foods that your family eats regularly can be a good way to start cutting back on the amount of chemicals in the food your baby or toddler eats. In the Parents Magazine article, "What Should I Buy Organic,”
Greene suggests if you are going to make only one organic purchase it should be milk. Conventional milk has artificial hormones as well as chemicals. Other organic foods to consider are:
• Potatoes - they are on the Dirty Dozen list put out by the EWG (Environmental Working Group) page=9 means it is one of the worst for pesticides. There are still chemicals after the potatoes are washed and pealed.
• Peanut butter – pesticides used on peanut butter are extremely toxic.
• Baby Food - "Our body and brain grow faster from birth to age 3 than at any other time," Dr. Greene says, adding that if “you're going to pick only one time to go organic it should be from conception to age three.”
• Ketchup – children eat tons of it, it is super healthy and organic does not have sugar or artificial colors.
• Apples – second on the dirty dozen list organic apples are more notorious.
• Beef – hormones are used to grow beef. Some of them can get into the human system.

There are many things to consider when trying to decide if buying organic food is the right choice for your family – cost, age, amount of food used, extra health benefits, extra nutritional value. The fact that the result of this choice will only be known many years from now makes it very difficult. It is something I have thought about since my daughter was born. Going completely organic is not a realistic option for me. Now with the USDA Organic labeling, the Dirty Dozen list from EWG and the recommendations from Dr, Greene There is a reasonable place to start – one step at a time.

Sibling Rivalry

Once upon a time I had a daughter, and for the first 2 years of her life, she was an only child. She was, in the least, spoiled rotten by mommy, daddy, aunts, uncles, and grandparents. At age 2 years and 1 month to be precise, she was no longer an only child. Parents of 2+ children know how hard it is to deal with a newborn and all of the lovely things that go with it. Such as all 6 of the middle of the night feedings (don’t forget the 30 minutes later diaper changes), figuring out what is wrong when they cry, feeding burping changing feeding burping changing and cuddling. In the midst of this there are a few naps, when you try to sleep as well, but the older child needs love and attention too. Unfortunately and luckily life is not what it was before the second child came along. In the process of taking care of the newest member of the family, the second child starts to feel neglected. Then the real problems start, I can remember when my own baby brother came along…when mommy wasn’t looking you better believe I was biting, pinching, and smacking him! So it shouldn’t have been a surprise to me when my daughter started doing these things to my son, but it was. The problem wasn’t too bad in the beginning…but once Derek started to sit on his own, crawl, and walk and he was getting praise for these milestones Madi started getting revenge for his “attention stealing”.


Luckily enough for me, I am taking a “Human Growth and Development” class, where we touched based on sibling rivalry. Basically I learned that sibling rivalry actually falls back on the parents and how they treat the children. “The child who gets the less parental affection, more disapproval, or fewer material resources is likely to be resentful” (Berk, 2010). Parents don’t do this intentionally but when stress is high due to financial worries, marital conflict, or even single parenthood and a parent’s energy is drained, they become less careful about being fair to both children. I also found that rivalry increases in middle childhood, and so children will begin to participate in different activities so that they can not be compared to their siblings’ accomplishments and traits. “For same-sex siblings who are close in age, parental comparisons are more frequent, resulting in more quarreling and antagonism and poorer adjustment.” In an effort to reduce this effect parents need to recognize what they are doing and make an effort not to compare their children (Berk, 2010)

There are however, some good points to a small amount of rivalry. “As siblings strive to win recognition for their own uniqueness, they shape important aspects of each other’s development” and “Although conflict rises, school-age siblings continue to rely on each other for companionship and assistance. When researchers asked siblings about shared daily activities, children mentioned that older siblings often helped younger siblings with academic and peer challenges. And both offered each other help with family issues” (Berk, 2010).
“For siblings to reap these benefits (above paragraph), parental encouragement of warm, considerate sibling ties is vital. Providing parents with training in mediation-how to get siblings to lay down ground rules, clarify their points of disagreement and common ground, and discuss possible solutions-increases siblings’ awareness of each other’s perspectives and animosity.” When siblings are at peace the younger child “picks up on” the older child’s social and academic competence and this promotes favorable peer relations and achievements (Berk, 2010)

Sibling rivalry is not always our fault as parents. Sometimes kids will just be kids, and we need to realize that we can’t always intervene. Children need to learn to manage their conflicts on their own. For help and advice with what you can do as a parent go to:  http://www.calmerparenting.com/siblingsLandingPage.html

While I know that I have a long haul in front of me, I am glad to have realized that sometimes their fights are my fault and sometimes not. I make a conscious effort to be fair to both children, whether it be play time, mommy time, snack time, or just anytime. I think sometimes we have to take a step back from the situation and figure out why our children are acting up. Sometimes you don’t like what you see and that can be hard to accept, but catching a problem early is key to the growth and happiness of our children. Other times, we find that our kids are just different people with different likes, dislikes, and approaches to life. Ultimately “In addition to parents and friends, siblings continue to be important sources of support” (Berk, 2010), and we as parents need to try and make sure that our children know that and use each other for support and help.

Alisha O.

Sources:
Berk, L.E. (2010), Development through the lifespan. Boston, MA: Pearson Education Inc.
http://www.calmerparenting.com/

Benefits of Breastfeeding

As a mother we are given the ability to produce milk for our child and it is ultimately our own decision to decide to do so. Breastfeeding is not for everyone and is a learned skill that takes a lot of time and effort. It can be enjoyable for both mother and child. Breastfeeding is one of the most beneficial actions a mother can do for her child and for herself.

Breast milk remains the one and only natural and complete nutrition for infants. Formula does provide some of the same benefits, but no matter how many vitamins, minerals, and supplements are added it will never provide all that breast milk does. The mothers breast milk is especially made for the infant and provides just the right amount of minerals, nutrients and antibodies. It is the perfect nutrition that only a mother can provide.



These are only a few of the benefits that a baby receives from breast milk.

• Less likely to have ear infections, allergies, asthma, and juvenile diabetes.

• Enhances baby’s brain growth.

• Easier for baby to digest.

• Reduced risk of SIDS.

• Less risk of childhood obesity.

• Reduced risk of chronic constipation or colic.

• Decreased risk of tooth decay.

• Special bonding and emotional relationship with mom.

• Recover quickly from illness.

There are also many benefits that breastfeeding provides for a mother.

• 50% less likely to get pre-menopausal breast cancer.

• Lower risk for ovarian cancer and osteoporosis.

• Helps to shrink uterus back to original size.

• Helps to shed pregnancy weight at a healthy pace.

• It’s free and convenient.

Breastfeeding makes mom feel relaxed due to endorphin hormones produced while nursing. It gives mom a good excuse to sit down and have quiet time with her baby. The bond between mom and baby is much more intense when nursing. It is a wonderful feeling knowing that you are giving your child something that is produced from your own body and it’s giving them the best start in life.

There are also many other good reasons to chose to breastfeed. To find more information about breastfeeding visit www.womenshealth.gov



Melissa K





Sources:

Murkoff, Heidi, and Sharon Mazel. What to Expect When You’re Expecting. New York:Workman,2008.Print

TEENS AND ADDICTIONS

By Tina:

The teenage years are a period of growth and exploration.  It is a time when teens move out of the protected world of home and move into a larger world full of adventure.  Where there is adventure, there is also danger.  Part of the danger for teenagers is not having solid information along with peer pressure and limited experience.  All of these pieces fit together putting teens at risk of making bad choices due to ignorance.  These bad choices sometimes lead to addiction.

Hmmm, which one should I try?

So what exactly is addiction?  According to The Merriam-Webster Dictionary, New Edition, addiction is the quality or state of being addicted; compulsive need for and use of a habit-forming substance characterized by well-defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal.

Teens do not set out to become addicts.  They start out seeking excitement, trying to fit in, or just looking to escape boredom.  Teenagers may try smoking marijuana because they are curious, because it feels good, or because they want to feel "grown up".  It is difficult to know which teen will only experiment with marijuana and which will develop a serious addiction.  Addiction is a dangerous problem facing parents, teenagers, and society at large.  Here are some reasons that teenagers can easily get addicted to legal or illegal drugs:

• Teenagers think that experimenting with drugs and alcohol during adolescence is common.
• Teenagers do not often see the link between their actions of today and the consequences of tomorrow.
• Teenagers have the tendency to feel indestructible and immune to the problems that others experience.

The six most common addictions in teenagers are:

1. Alcohol
2. Smoking
3. Prescription Medication
4. Inhalants
5. Over-the-Counter cough, cold, sleep, and diet medications
6. Marijuana

According to http://www.alcohlism-and-drug-addiction-help.com/, the following are common signs of teen addiction:

• Dip in performance levels at school.
• Dramatic and unexpected change in attitude.
• Often isolating and spending unusual amount of time alone in room.
• Becoming increasingly secretive.
• Has become lethargic and seemingly depressed, losing interest in activities previously enjoyed.
• Eyes are red or watery and/or pupils are dilated or constricted.
• Disruptive at school and in trouble often.
• Marks, sores and stains on hands and arms.
• Slurred speech and difficulty communicating.
• Goods or money have gone "missing" around the house.
• Sudden emotional outbursts and mood swings.

• New friends with little interest in old ones.

If you were to find out that your teen has an addiction, it would be emotionally devastating for your entire family.  Actually, it is a parent's worst nightmare.  The following suggestions are from http://www.byparents-forparents.com/.  These six suggestions concentrate on how to help your teen.

1. Focus on a goal which can help your teen heal rather than punishing him or her.
2. Find a good therapist or support group.
3. Help your teen build self esteem and reinforce their strengths.
4. Keep open and ongoing communication with your teen.  Stay open-minded and honest.  That is what family is all about.
5. Practice tighter parenting.
6. Let go of the blame.

It is normal for those closest to an addict to find it hard to see the problem.  If you suspect that your teen is having a problem with addiction, remember to always trust your instinct.  You are feeling that way for a reason.  Try to speak openly and freely with your teen.  Do not be judgmental or angry because your teen will probably have a defensive reaction.  Parenting your teen through the challenges of addiction will be very difficult for you, your teen, and your entire family.  With dedication and determination, you will be surrounding your teen with the essentials to help him or her fight their addiction.  Remember, the sooner you get help, the more rapidly your teenager will be able to start making positive changes.
 

WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE TO DRINK?

By:  Christina C


So far we have discussed quick, easy but healthy choices for breakfast, snacks and dinner. I have also shared my personal experience of a sick child on the brat diet. One thing that I would like to discuss is what to give toddlers to drink. EarthBest.com says that “A healthy, 22 pound one-year old needs 4 ½ cups of fluid every day.” But what should you offer? Water? Juice? Milk? There are many choices for beverages that are geared towards children but what makes them the right choice?

Lets first discuss water. Water has no calories, no preservatives, and no additives. Nothing it is just plain old h2o. The body is made up of mostly water. Water carries oxygen and nutrients into the cells of your body, it helps to control the body temperature, and keeps the metabolism functioning appropriately. Children need to consume at least eight ounces of water a day. Summer time is especially when you want to be sure that your child has enough water to drink. It is important to remember to periodically offer a toddler something to drink throughout the day especially when they are busy playing. If a toddler sees the parent walking around with water then they will want to follow in their footsteps.

Juice seems to be the go to drink for toddlers. There are many different types of juice on the market. Toddlers should only consume four to six ounces of fruit juice a day. The best juice to buy is 100% fruit juice not fruit drink. Fruit drinks have added sugar and preservatives. One serving of 100% juice can be substituted for but not equal to one serving of fruit. It is best to dilute the juice 50% with water to limit the amount of calories being ingested. In the warm summer months, homemade Popsicles can be made with any 100% fruit juice. It is a wonderful snack and a great way to be sure they are staying hydrated when playing hard.

There are many benefits to milk. It has calcium and vitamin D needed for strong bones. Whole milk contains dietary fats needed for normal growth and brain development. Toddlers should consume at least sixteen ounces of milk a day. There is not a rule as to whether or not milk should be served warmed or cold.

Here is a short video explaining some of the things that I have gone over thus far.

http://video.about.com/babyparenting/About-Parenting-Milk-And-Juice.htm








A toddler can drink too much though and that will result in a full tummy. This can lead to a poor appetite come mealtime. This results in not consuming the other healthy foods that are needed for proper growth and development. Toddlers are very active and continuously exploring the world around them. By providing a healthy drink option, they can discover their world hydrated.

















Work Cited:



About.com, Fruit Juice

www.pediatrics.about.com/cs/nutrition/a/fruit_juice.htm

Cited: 2011 Retrieved: April 1, 2011



Earth’s Best, The importance of water

www.earsthbest.com/resources/artickes/kids/importance-water

Cited: 2010 Retrieved: April 1, 2011



Feeding Tips for 12-24 Months

www.doh/state.fl.us/chdherando/wedpage/wic-nutrition/12-24/html

Retrieved: April 1, 2011



Kids Health

www.kidshealth.org/parent/nutrition_center/healthy_eating/toddler_food.html

Cited: October 2008 Retrieved: April 1, 2011



Nutritional Guide for Preschooler

www.babycenter.com/404_how-can-I-get-my-child-to-drink-more-water_69548.bc

Retrieved: April 1, 2011



Video: Milk and Juice

www.video.about.com/babyparenting/about_parent_milk_and_juice.htm

Cited: April 1, 2011

Nine Months Too Fast

I remember at this time last year, I was anxiously awaiting the arrival of my second son, Cayden. My due date was July 5, 2010 and it just couldn’t come soon enough. I struggled with preterm labor for the last three months of my pregnancy and finally, he decided to arrive June 14, 2010. It feels as if life has flown by since he was born. The once quiet sleeping baby has become a very curious and cruising nine month old.

The first few months were rough and overwhelming. Learning to care for a newborn definitely changed my daily routine. Between feeding, changing diapers, and sleeping it left little time for anything else. The first month had many sleepless nights when he would awake every 2 hours for a feeding. By the second month, he was starting to lift and support his head and neck for short periods of time. Giving him lots of tummy time was helping to strengthen those muscles. Things began to get more on a schedule and I was beginning to know what Cayden wanted and what all his cries meant. He began to recognize faces and voices and would respond with a smile. Starting in his third month of life he was awake more and was more playful. His eye sight had improved since birth and had begun reaching for colorful objects. He also loved to bounce when standing upright and would giggle and babble.

During month four I started experimenting with baby food and cereal and Cayden started to begin sleeping longer through the night, waking only twice.He was able to sit in a seated position and could raise himself up on his arms when lying on his tummy. At five months old he loved to play peek-a-boo and could pass toys from one hand to the other. He was beginning to drool a lot and chewing on his fists. Before I knew it he had his first tooth and there was a second on its way. He was about six months old and finally figured out how to make his legs and arms work together to crawl. Even though he could crawl he still hadn’t figured it all out. He was exploring everything in reach by touching and putting everything in his mouth.

By the seventh month he was getting around more independently. He was about to learn that crawling could take you all over the house and get you into lots of things. I had to start baby proofing the house because as each day went by the more he was getting into. As he was turning eight months old he was learning his hands could do things like clapping, waving and pointing. He was also getting a little attitude and when things didn’t go his way he would get upset. Now that he is nine months old he’s pulling himself up on objects and furniture. Just recently he has been letting go for a few seconds and standing on his own. I know walking will be coming soon. He has become an expert at crawling and can get from one room to the other in a matter of seconds. He loves to leave a trail of mess. He especially enjoys dumping our little dog’s food and water everywhere. He has also been practicing simple words like “ma-ma” and “da-da” and learning that they actually mean something.

In only nine months Cayden has grown so much, physically and mentally since birth. It is fascinating how babies observe and absorb so much and become this little person. I cannot believe in just a few months he will be a year old and become a toddler. It seems like yesterday that I was holding my newborn baby in my arms. A time that could not come fast enough suddenly has become a time that has come too soon.

By Melissa K

Poison Prevention


By Meghan

Blog 5 Extra



The most common childhood injury is poisoning.


Every 8 seconds someone calls a poison center.

"A poison exposure occurs when a person swallows, breathes, touches, or gets splashed in the eye with something that can cause sickness or death. Poisoning is a matter of dosage - too much of almost anything can be dangerous."


Each year during March, health agencies nationwide promote information about the risks of poisoning. Many of the precautions seem like a repetition of things we already know and do. When our children started to walk and explore their environment we probably did the basic things to child proof the house. Still this may not be adequate. According to the American Association of Poison Control Centers "in 2007 approximately 1.3 million children under the age of 5 were poisoned." That is almost have the number of poisonings nationwide!  More needs to be done to prevent poisoning in young children. Over time it is easy to grow lacks or overlook situations that in seconds could become extremely dangerous.

Keeping in mind how a toddler or young child might respond to some normal household circumstances, I decided to reexamine some common items that could present opportunities for a young child to be poisoned, and may not have been considered by many parents as much as more familiar poisons.

PLANT DANGERS

Indoor and outdoor plants add to the beauty of our homes and yards. They are selected for many reasons – color, height, to attract butterflies or animals, but few people stop to think if they are safe to be around children. Some parts of many common house and garden plants are poisonous and harmful to humans. I was surprised to learn that certain parts of a plant can be poisonous while other parts are not. Rhubarb stocks are edible, but the leaves are poisonous. When considering plants for your home, check them out first. Label the plants with their names, and keep them out of reach of those little hands. Remember that invisible pesticides and fertilizers may also present risks. The following is an example of the type of informaion available on the website.   

                                                

COMMON NAME: Amaryllis
SCIENTIFIC NAME: Amaryllis belladonna, vittata
TOXIC PARTS: Bulb
The amaryllis is a beautiful flower, but the bulbs are poisonous if ingested. Large quantities of the bulb (although less for a small child) would have to be eaten before symptoms of diarrhea, nausea and/or vomiting would occur.

SUBSTANCE DANGERS 

Purses and brief cases are extremely inviting and interesting to young children. These are usually left around without much concern about the common harmful substances that may be in them. Think about it! Pills that look like candy in easy to open containers, nicotine or aspirin that looks like gum, perfume or cosmetics in bright fruity colors, maybe a tube of diaper or acne cream that looks like fun might be inside. All are real dangers for a child. Even a pack of cigarettes could be harmful to your child. The only thing more interesting than Mommy’s purse is one that belongs to Grandma, and she may be more likely to have dangerous medications. Such substances are some of the most common hazards to children. Find a safe place to keep your purse or brief case, and suggest that any visitors do the same.

CHEMICAL DANGERS

Batteries, especially the small round disks, are very dangerous to Mr. Yuk™small children. If swallowed, they cause a chemical reaction in the body. Immediate help is necessary if a battery is swallowed or pushed up a tiny nose. Cleaning proTducts can look like interesting drinks to a child. Chemicals in the garage should be store in a secure cabinet. Never put a dangerous chemical in an unmarked container. Keep them in their original packaging. One of the best deterrents to an accident involving a child is to mark any type of poison with Mr. Yuk stickers.

"To promote poison prevention and the poison center, the iconic symbol  was created by the Pittsburgh Poison Center and was the first recognized poison prevention/poison center awareness symbol in the U.S. Since then, Mr. Yuk has been used to educate children and adults in the U.S. and internationally about poison prevention and to promote poison center awareness.

Mr. Yuk has raised awareness that poison centers are available 24 hours-a-day, every day of the year to assist in the management of poisoning emergencies and to provide poison information. Every Mr. Yuk sticker contains the name of the nearest poison center and the national toll-free “Poison Help” telephone number: 1-800-222-1222. Regardless of your location in the U.S. or its territories, dialing that number will direct your call to the nearest regional poison center."

Follow the Mr. Yuk link to see the promotion, and get the address to receive a free sheet of Mr. Yuk stickers.

LEAD DANGERS

Most families feel that their children are safe from
Lead poisoning, but this might not be true if you live in a house build before 1980! Although the law prohibits lead in toys for toddlers it is still found from time to time. Carefully check “hand –me-down” toys or toys without packaging. Never allow a young child to put jewelry in her mouth. Children’s jewelry frequently has lead or other dangerous metals in it.

CARBON MONOXIDE DANGERS

Most homes have smoke alarms , but not as many have carbon monoxide detectors. Carbon monoxide poisoning causes http://www.the-baby-safety-site.com/carbon-monoxide-poisoning-symptoms.html

flu like symptoms which are much more dangerous to infants and small children than adults. It can also cause lasting effects. Consider getting carbon monoxide detectors for your home, and learn the symptoms and causes of this deadly danger.

Planning for every danger may seem impossible. One of the best way to prevent accidents is to talk to your children. Here are some tips for toddlers and young children.

Tips for Kids


• If you don’t know what something is don’t put it in your mouth. Always ask a trusted grown-up first.

• Never take medicine unless an adult gives it to you.

• Some plants and berries are poisonous. Always ask a grown-up before you put them in your mouth.

• Always let grown-ups use spray cans and bottles. Do not touch them!

• Stay away from things used to clean the house, clothes or car.

Dinner More than Food

The statistics are clear: Kids who dine with the folks are healthier, happier and better students, which is why a dying tradition is coming back. MICHAEL ELINS FOR TIME

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By Meghan Scaringi


Even when I was a child having dinner as a family was not the normal thing. My brothers and I had different after school schedules – swimming, dance and music lessons. Sundays were different. On Sundays we had dinner at my Grandmother’s house. Anything we planned on Sunday had to happen before or after dinner. Everyone attend. No excuses. There were times when it seemed like this was terrible, but looking back I see that this was a very special and valuable time – the type of experience I would like my daughter to have.

My daughter is at the stage where she insists on feeding herself. Sometimes this is messing and time consuming. Eating chickpeas with a spoon can take a while. The extra mess makes me wish I could wrap the kitchen in plastic wrap before she eats. She is determined to use her own fork and spoon, and I need to let her try until she learns. Sitting at the table as a family seems to be the place to begin. My daughter wants to do what she sees, and I would like her to have a good example.

Recently, I heard a NPR broadcast of the California Club interview with Laurie David, one of the authors of The Family Dinner:  A Great Way to Connect with  your Kids One Meal at a Time by Laurie David with recipes by Kirstin Uhrenholdt. Basically, this is a cookbook of 75 recipes, conversation starters, tips on teaching green values, and games to play at the table. This seemed like an idea I would like to try, especially where there seems to be so much to gain.

Table manners are not the only thing that can be learned by taking part in family dinner.

• Language Arts –expand vocabulary, storytelling, conversation, listening

• Interpersonal Skills – consideration, respect for others tastes and opinions, cooperation, express thoughts and feelings

• Healthy Eating – balanced meals, portion control, new foods, cooking

• Green Values – use of food, elimination of waste, recycling.

Besides all of this family dinner can build self-esteem, be relaxing and fun!

The list can go on and on. The dinner table is the center for the teaching and practicing not just of table manners but of conversation, consideration, tolerance, family feeling and just about all the other accomplishments of polite society except the minuet. Judith Martin (Miss Manners) writer and etiquette authority

Family dinner with everyone seated at a beautifully set table, eating nutritious food, using proper table manners, while enjoying wonderful conversation sounds very much like a fairy tale from an enchanted life! Still, the advantages are there, and some families are doing it today. There are strategies, as suggested in Laurie David’s book, to create the family dinner that may not happen naturally.

1. Everyone must be present. No excuses. Everyone in the family eats together.

2. No electronic devices. The means television, cellphone, games for children and adults.

3. Involve the children in the preparations. If the children help cook, they are more likely to taste a food. Select simple recipes since adults are role models they should also try to eat verities of food. This is also a chance to use good portion control. With the rise of childhood obesity this is something to consider.

4. Set a pleasant and fun table. China and silver may be unrealistic, but setting the table with proper knife, fork and spoon is a good place to start. A decoration can make it more festive.

5. Don’t make this a time to teach manners. This can only become an unpleasant ordeal. Make some positive suggestions, and let the skills develop over time.

6. Create a positive atmosphere with music. No lyrics, just music as background. This can be an opportunity to sample the taste of other family members.

7. Planning conversation starters until things are more natural is a good idea. Don’t put anyone on the spot!    This should not turn into an inquisition. Share positive accomplishments and achievements.

8. Go green, clean-up

9. Fun Games

Family dinner is a way to de-stress and –if managed correctly- a time to have fun. By that I mean don’t use it as a period of  iinquisition or a recounting of shortcomings. Keep it light, keep it fun, and make it the highlight of the day. Peggy Drexler, PhD, assistant professor of psychology Weill Cornell Medical College.

Family’s that are interested in trying to reinvent the family dinner are able to find ideas and suggestions from the Family Dinner Project.

This sites offers many resources for getting started – checklists, recipes, conversation starters. It is possible to start very simply and build into something special. There is so much to gain from a family dinner; that any effort is worth it.

Professional advice about tantrums

As a mother, a student, and an employee, my life often gets crazy and hectic. After doing this interview and writing this blog, I am afraid to say, for fear of sounding like a bad parent,that I have lost track of what really matters as a mom. I love my children with all of my heart and make sure that they know it, but I have unrealizingly forgot that my actions now, shape my childrens’ lives. How I teach them and react to situations is the example that they will follow. Thinking back, I can recall shopping for my daughter’s birthday party, and they didn’t have the banner I wanted. I stomped my foot and grunted, my husband turned to me that moment and said “I see where Madi gets her temper from.” I guess it was one of those things that never really clicks until it is pointed out. I hope that this interview helps you, as much as it has helped me and opened my eyes to what really matters.



1. What, in your professional opinion, is the cause of tantrums?
"Tantrums are basically a tool used by children to get what they want. In most cases it could be described as a learned behavior that has gotten the results they wanted in the past, so why not try it again? The candy bar at the checkout, getting to leave a place that is uncomfortable or not preferred are possible examples.
There are also children however who lack the resources to control their emotions. Children with autism or developmental issues have a difficult time with changes in routine or unpleasant sensations. The approach with those kids requires a treatment/learning type of intervention that gives the parent the ability to provide the security a child might need to avoid a tantrum."


2. Children tend to act out more in public, what is an acceptable “punishment” for children? At home and in public?
"The work in dealing with inappropriate behavior, including tantrums must take place from the very beginning of child’s life. Parents must understand that they are the first models for positive behavior; it’s tough to tell a child to be under control when the parents lack discipline themselves. Kids will watch and repeat your behavior, so let’s strive to show them a better way to behave.
In training a child to become a good citizen a parent needs to be consistent in what the rules are. Besides what the parent displays, do you correct clearly or explain the behavior that you would prefer? You should try to apply consequences for behavior as quickly and fairly as possible to reinforce what you are trying to teach them. Catch them being good and tell them as fast as you would punish bad behavior.
With that being said, what do you do when your child is spread eagle on the floor in a grocery store screaming because they want something? First, try and acknowledge the situation, without ranting yourself, remain calm and remind them of potential consequences for the behavior and what you expect them to do. Do this with firmness. Don’t get yourself out of control. Secondly, if they don’t respond the way you want, you’ve confronted them firmly, tried to ignore the behavior, then be willing to leave the store with your child. You’ll be embarrassed but most people would completely understand and sympathize with your situation. I have done this. I have taken the child to the car and dealt with them outside of the public. I’ve left the cart with an attendant in the store to keep until or if I return. Again, give your clear explanation of the behavior, even expressing disappointment (it’s ok to make them feel badly for hurting you). Make the car a place for a ‘time out’ and remind them of other consequences if they continue to misbehave.
If they settle, return to the store, if they can’t demonstrate that they won’t act up again, leave and live to fight another day. The key is to either get the child settled or remove them from the situation quickly because it is tough to have this unfold for an extended period in public, you need to be firm and feel as confident as possible."


"One last note, DO NOT use a bribe to get the child to behave. They need to learn that proper behavior is expected and not to be subject to bargaining. When you give in, you only give the child another experience that tells them tantrums work!"


3. How can a parent prevent this unacceptable behavior?
"As I said before the real work needs to be done beforehand. Your prevention is in the willingness to teach and train your children as often as possible. Let them know the rules and reward when they do well as you would if they misbehave.
I recall a ‘look’ that my mother could give me to show me that I was getting into trouble. That look was both a warning and a punishment together and it could stop me in my tracks across a room. My spine is melting right now remembering that glare!"


4. They call this stage of a child’s life “terrible two’s”, but as most parents find out this stage lasts longer then 2 How can we shorten this length of time?
"Again, be willing to put the time in throughout your child’s life. The 2’s set the standard for things to follow but it doesn’t end there. It’s about demonstrating your love for the child in that you are willing to take the time to focus on them, engage, teach and encourage them to get the best out of life. Parent out of love, parent to teach goodness and give your child the best of what you have to offer.
But remember, mistakes will probably be made, don’t get overwhelmed. Kids and parents are resilient. If you have made a mistake, be willing to apologize, even to your kids. You don’t lose face but in fact, you demonstrate another example of how people should be with others and how you are willing to learn, just like they should be."

I hope you enjoyed the interview!


Check out my next blog on April 8th,where I will cover sibling rivalry .


Special thanks to:

John Dittmar, who has his masters in education, is a licensed therapist, and is a PhD Candidate.

Alisha O.

TEENAGERS AND PEER PRESSURE

By:  Tina  

“Do your homework.”  “Clean your room.”  “Take out the garbage.”  Sound familiar?  These parental urgings echo in most teenager's ears and many times, receive little if any response.  Now suppose your teenager’s friends are encouraging him or her by saying “Come on, take a drink.”  “Let’s skip school today.”  “Let’s have some fun and paint graffiti on the high school.”  I wonder how your teenager would react.

What exactly is peer pressure?  When a teenager’s friends influence their thoughts and behavior, that is peer pressure.  This influence can be verbal, nonverbal, and even unconscious.  This pressure can negatively or positively impact your teen’s behavior.  Peer pressure is a powerful influence, one that all parents need to understand. 

Why is peer pressure so powerful?  Research suggests that a teenager’s task is to make a break from their parent’s influence and identify with the value of their peers.  Let’s face it, teenagers spend many more waking hours with their peers as opposed to family members.  Friends seem to become the utmost important thing in a teenager’s life and fitting into that group of friends is a crucial task.  Teenagers seem to “try on” different thoughts, ideas and lifestyles that their friends can offer.  They try to break away from the values and standards that parents have instilled in them in an effort to discover themselves.

The fact is that an adolescent brain is a work in progress.  It constantly seeks new experiences but it does not have the ability to say, “This could be harmful to my health.”  Additionally, the teen brain seems to have a higher need for new, exciting and intense stimulation.  However, new, exciting and intense experiences may translate into “risky” behavior.  Because a teenager’s brain is seeking this new stimulation and can not always put the brakes on a bad idea, a friend’s suggestion to partake in a risky behavior is tempting regardless of the consequences. 

What can teenagers do to get a handle on all of this pressure?  Here are a few suggestions from teenhelp.com.  You can read the entire article at: http://www.teenhelp.com/teen-issues/peer-pressure.html

• Decide what your values and standards are before you get into a situation.
• Choose good friends who share your values.
• Avoid situations where people are doing things you do not want to do.
• Think about your reasons and the consequences of your decisions and actions.
• Practice ways to say no.
• Talk to your parents or a trusted adult about the kinds of peer pressure you face and listen to their  advice.
• With you parents or another trusted adult, come up with a code word you can use to let the adult know that you need help getting out of a bad situation but can’t talk about it.                         

What can parents do to deal with peer pressure?  Here are a few suggestions:

• Remember that you are one of the biggest influences on your teen.
• Remember that it may seem like your teen is not listening to you, but they truly are listening.
• When parents stay involved in their teen’s lives, the teen tends to make better choices for themselves.
• Stay interested and involved in what your teen is doing and be aware of what he or she is up to.
• Be consistent with your message about expectations.  If you expect that your teen will not drink, smoke, do drugs or have sex, chances are he or she will be less likely to do so.  It really is as simple as that.

Source:

Herman, Judith W. “The Teen Brain as a Work in Progress: Implications for Pediatric Nurses.” Pediatric Nursing. 2005 31(2): 144-148.

Dinner Bell!!!!!

By:  Christina C

There are some days that I spend all day thinking, “What am I going to make for dinner tonight?” The easiest choice is to make a phone call and order pizza or go to the nearest restaurant. These two choices are not only the more expensive choice but also sometimes not the most nutritious. Dinnertime in our house is the family meal; this is the time that we sit down together. We share about our day, what our plans are for the next day and enjoy each other’s company. My family is always on the go, setting aside time to sit down and talk is hard in hectic schedules. I want the food to not only be delicious but nutritious. Nutrition is something I strive for with every meal but dinner is a special meal. I believe that breakfast is the most important to start your day off right and dinner is important to complete your day.

Dinner is defined in the dictionary as the chief meal of the day, eaten in the evening or at midday. It is said that most toddlers received 85% of their needed nutrition through out the day therefore they are less likely to eat a full meal at dinnertime. It is hard to decide what to make for dinner that you know your toddler will eat as well.

Making a meal for the adults and a meal for your toddler can be nerve-racking. If you know what you have eating for dinner your toddler will not eat, try mixing up something that they just may try. An example would be, cutting chicken off of your baked chicken and serving to your toddler as nuggets. If you are having hamburgers, mash the ground meat and mix with noodles and a small amount of beef broth for flavor.

Some toddlers just will not eat their meals. Jessica Seinfeld has written a book called “Deceptively Delicious” is about how to get your child to eat nutritiously without the battle at dinnertime. She describes how to “hide” vegetables into their favorite meal so they still get the nutrition from vegetables but without the stress of fighting over it. There is also another book that does not go down the hiding route but is a lot of easy nutritious meals that the whole family can eat. It is called “The Big Book of Recipes for Babies, Toddlers & Children: 365 Quick, Easy, and Healthy Dishes” by Bridget Wardley. This book I personally have just purchased and so far have no complaints.

A typical dinner in our house normally consists of a protein, a vegetable and a grain. The food pyramid for toddlers suggests that a toddler should consume three ounces of grain, one cup of vegetable and two ounces of a protein. By following this it will occasionally make my choosing what is for dinner job easier. Some days my toddler will eat the vegetables and not the protein and some days it is the opposite. Now if only I could get my toddler sit still long enough at the dinner table to enjoy her meal. That is a discussion for another day!

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    Kids Eating Good Food. Collins; 1st edition 5, October 2007

3. Wardley, Bridget. The Big Book of Recipes for Babies, Toddlers & Children:
    365 Quick, Easy, and Healthy Dishes. Duncan Baird. 28, July 2006

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